6 Small Things You Can Do When You Lack Discipline

Auhtor: By; Leo Babauta.

One of the biggest problems people face is the lack of discipline — they have goals or habits they want to achieve, but lack that discipline needed to stick with it.
Then we beat ourselves up about it. We feel crappy because we can’t stick with it.
And that leads to more failure, because we’re forming a mindset that we don’t have the necessary discipline.

Here’s what to do when you face a situation like this:
1. Forgive yourself. You aren’t perfect. No one is. Realize that beating yourself up will only make things worse. Take a few slow, deep breaths and let it go. Forgive yourself. And move on.

2. Realize that discipline is an illusion. While discipline is a common concept, it doesn’t actually exist. It’s not a thing you can actually do. Think about it: people say discipline is pushing yourself to do something you don’t want to do. But how do you do that? What skill is required? There isn’t a skill — it’s just forcing yourself to do something you don’t want to do. And that requires … some kind of motivation. Without motivation, you won’t be able to force yourself to do anything. So motivation is the key concept — and this is something that’s real, that you can actually learn how to do.

3. Focus on motivation. What’s your motivation for pursuing the goal or habit? How will you sustain the motivation when you struggle? Have very strong motivations for doing something, and write them down. Commit publicly. When things get tough, remind yourself of your motivation. Focus on it. It’ll pull you along — that’s more powerful than trying to focus on the push of discipline.

4. Make it easy. Discipline is tough because whatever the task or habit you’re trying to do is tough. Instead, make it easy. Remove barriers. Having a hard time exercising? Make it ridiculously easy, by only exercising for 5 minutes. What use is exercising for 5 minutes? You’re creating the habit, not getting yourself into shape overnight. The 5 minutes of exercise will have only a tiny impact on your health, but it makes exercise super easy. If you can do that 30 days in a row, you now have an exercise habit. Hate waking up early to go to the gym? Do it at home. Do it during lunch or after work.

5. Focus on enjoyment. It’s hard to push yourself — to have discipline — when you hate doing something. So find something enjoyable about the activity. If you don’t look forward to exercise, find some good music, or a workout partner who you can have a nice conversation with, or a peaceful setting in nature that is just beautiful. And focus on that enjoyable aspect. Hate doing your paperwork? Find a peaceful sanctuary where you can do the paperwork and enjoy yourself. Maybe have a nice cup of tea or coffee, play some nice music. And focus on the enjoyment.

6. Repeat. You’ll almost inevitably slip up sometime, no matter how good you are. Unfortunately, people often take this to mean they don’t have discipline, and they just beat themselves up and give up. Well, it’s just a bump in the road. Get up, dust yourself off, and get going again. Start from Step 1 and start all over.

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A Better Friend Recipe!

RECIPE FOR; A BETTER FRIEND RECIPE!

1 full-rounded tbls. of none judgment feelings..
1 heaping tsp. compassion
1/2 cup of good understanding..
1and a 1/2 of cup of support.
1 glass of smooth unconditional love
Unlimited positive healing energy
Lots of imagination, visualization

Combine the ingredients one after another, while mixing dentally, and after 15 minutes, add, hope, day dreaming, creativity, and now let it stand by the over for a period of time, until all ingredient are event...

start shaping and forming the cookies as you ready, add colors, shapes, laughter, smiles, happiness, joy, intelligence, patience, empathy, passion, desire, and UNCONDITIONAL love all the way.... now.. that it loos so pretty..place it in the oven of PASSION and let it cook for 30 minutes... as you close your eyes.. smell the aroma, allow your mouth to drool over the idea of the ultimate happiness...

Now that it is ready, take your loving energy and serve with much passion and generosity the portion if this wonderful recipe with everyone else as it will continue to manifest and attract the right friendship into your life..

"Bona Petite", make sure you serve it daily....

Love Doreen Cohanim C.Ht

Limited Programming!

Yes, I know we all use the negative self talk and limiting words every day, either consciously or subconsciously… that is how we have been programmed… so what now?

Can we change it? YES

How can we change it? Glad you asked…

First you have to recognize that you are stuck using your negative thinking… Also remember that the negative thought is related you your “Ego” Yes ego, the one that usually wins the battle… regardless to being right or wrong…

Lets first acknowledge where is your Ego coming from, The ego is your Inner child, the one that is stubborn, childish and holding onto the images in their mind, in this case, it is your inner mind - known as imagination…

Please allow me to clarify and introduce you to your “Ego” also known as you’re “Inner Child” and what role your Ego-Inner child is playing in your life… so you can relate and understand them better, the limited programming and each character responsibility's…

You’re Ego - Inner Child, are your thoughts and your feelings that are simply based on your fears, doubts, suspicions, exaggerations etc…

So what we most do with our limited programming? We use it as an excuse…

I am willing to bet that you have used the “BUT” and TRY word so many times that it is part of your every day conversation…

Are you putting 1 and 2 together... do you realize that the word "BUT" & TRY is just simple negative words...

Interesting isn’t it? I love to be creative in my group classes, so if anyone who is in my group or classes uses the word "BUT" or “TRY” they get to write a full page of "BUTS" and “TRY” as a reminder to why "BUT" & “TRY” are Stopping them from achieving any goals in their life.... and then I become even more creative with the BUTS, by using symbols and objects that resembles any of those words, plus every time someone uses the words BUT or TRY, I am giving them the BUT & TRY symbolic objects, and in the end, the one who gets the largest amount of BUTS objects is going to pay a small penalty.... (That of course depends on the class and the program settings)

Just wait, we are not done, what about the negative word that is also used a lot...
Are you guessing? Are you having any difficulty coming up with the word? OK I’ll help you… It is called "Problem", so for you to get rid of this negative self talk, all you have to do is to replace it with more positive word that is connecting to the “Problem” such as “Issues”, "Challenges", "Obstacles", "Concerns", Bumpy Roads" and all of them are natural with an easy solution or an outcome… all we have to do my dear, is to just to use our gray cells to seek Solutions....

Is it Impossible? NO…

Just remember, that we are never given dreams without being given the “POWER” or the “PATH” to make them happen and to come true, and that is the SOLUTION my friends… when there is a way there is always a solution…

My mother always says, that her Mother, My Grandmother, her soul rest in peace, use to tell her, When one door closes another door always opens… just remember that… It is universal...

PAIN, SADNESS AND HEARTBREAKS will only keep going as long as you allow it to hurt your flash by cutting you too deep, the rule is, as long as you don't allow it, it won’t hurt anymore… All you have to do is to put, A STOP TO IT... Like Mother Teresa did when she said; NO MORE!

The point I am making is simple, once you experienced it, Learn from it and move on towards your ultimate goals.

The good news is; Time heals all……and your positive attitude will be developed greater with self awareness, Say No to “Negative Words, Negative thoughts, as soon as you realize you have been using it over and over… Reverse it, Stop It, Change It… and this is done with your conscious awareness, the law of repetitions is very affective….…

From now on, pay attention to what you are saying, what you are focusing on. Use your imagination, and catch your negative words and your negative thoughts, with a baseball bath, or something else that is fun and creative to you…

Make a mental note, perform self-checks several times during the day, get in touch with your feeling, see if it is negative feelings, such as frustration, irritation, anger, sadness, pessimistic or what ever you are programmed to do, and take a deep breath.. Exhale and send love and positive thinking back instead, let it go… or get to know me, I will help you make it go away…

Once you do that, you will notice the shift that will take place, and you will be responding with positive words and positive thoughts, so it will manifest with an instant good feelings of well being…

Doreen Cohanim C.Ht
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Welcome to Hypnosis for Happiness “EnterYourMind”

Hello, my name is Doreen Cohanim, Certified Hypnotherapist, HypnoBirthing® The Mongan Method, Melkizedek reactionaries- Energy Healer and Reiki Level One Energy Healer, Life Coach, Motivational speaker, Intuitive psychic and people person … but that’s not all I do, I am very creative and also very different, so feel free to speak to me or even to email me with whatever you feel hysterics. I am a twenty-two and a half in each leg... it does the math; I am an HMI graduate since 2004, currently studying more related hypnotherapy and the subconscious mind. I am living in California, in Sherman Oaks to be exact। I have never been aware of bloggers until just recently, posting few blogs on various places, and going out to networking events…

I am kind, sincere, straight forward, down to earth, patient, calming and friendly person। My passion and mission is to help everyone who wants to be helped, for as long as I live… I am respectful and expect the same in return… I am also not perfect, so feel free not to be perfect… I got into this lifestyle through hard and painful experiences, and I am here to share and to help you grow as I have and still do.

I didn’t just become an energy healer and a hypnotherapist by choice, life brought me into it… and I am grateful for that…. oddly enough by hypnosis since they share quite a lot of similarities. I am going to share personal experiences and stories from my life and from my clients that will inspire you with hope and excitement…. Sharing them with you will always enlighten and will open your hearts… Many of my friends, clients and my large family, from a very young age to a very old age, will testify that I am kind, understanding, and passionate as hell…. I am sure that will discover that very soon… being who I am my greatest treasure, and of all times… and I am grateful to God, the higher power…

I have been practicing energy healing since 1999 and hypnotherapy since 2003- Graduated from Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2004. And ever since I continue to learn and advance my skills, I have been working directly with physicians and psychologist as well as psychiatrist… Today I work on line, from my clinic located in Tarzana and at the Family medicine of Northridge Hospital।

My greatest joy is when I see my client who came for various medical and mental issues leaving my sessions with a great joy and a positive attitude towards life…For me it is exactly like receiving a beautiful “Birthday Gift”…

What am I looking for? Is Your Smiles, Laughter, Joy, Passion, Health, Happiness, and Success...with whom I can share and deliver my passion, My hope, my dreams, and most importantly; to make you smile and that will be just enough to put a bigger smile on me…

Doreen Cohanim C.Ht

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